My blog posts are mostly beauty/fashion related and in that sense i know the content of the blog is nothing serious although i do hope you enjoy reading it :) Lately i have been wanting to talk about other topics and share more of my personal life experience and perhaps give out tips and advice in general. Please keep in mind that i am only talking from my own ( young- am only 25) personal experience so do note take/feel as though i am urging you to do the same.
that said here we go: planing a life in your 20s..
enjoy that period of your life (20-30)
belonging to 20-30 age group in my opinion is the most challenging period of one´s life, some of us are studying others working and perhaps we are still wondering if we are making the right decisions as theses choices will shape our life to come. if you feel a little frightened about making decisions that will affect your life to come, don't be ! As stressful as it might be , keep in mind that the best thing about being in your 20s is that theses choices might be reversed, but once you are over 30 that might be easier said than done...
know who you are and who you want to be
In fact who your are and who you want to be are the same thing: you are what you want to be if you put some effort into it. Did you have some goals you haven't reach yet? did you dream yourself different? well guess what? only YOU can reach those and only YOU can become that person!
That being said , we live in a society ( although it seems some people live in their own world right?) so we have to behave in a certain way in order to be able to live all together. While we all have different personalities in my opinion it is important to make concession and understand people from different background even tough we don´t always share the same opinion. We can have different friend who think differently about life and it is a gift to share and be influenced by them but don't forget who YOU are and what YOU believe in. If you adhere to all what society or others are telling you it will only lead you to being more confused about your life choices. did you want to be a psychiatrist or a dancer? only YOU should decide!!! Also : find out HOW you can become the person you want to be :)
compromise : good vs. bad
i believe one can´t live a life where one does only things they love! there has to be balnce between what you enjoy doing and what you don't. But here is a pointer: do things which will have a positive impact on your life. For e.g you don't like studying, fair enough but remember that getting an education will always benefit you, you don't like the gym? neither do i!!! but it benefits my body and my heart so i go!! You don't like certain people? me neither! But i remain polite , getting into childish argument will only make YOU look bad. i Hope you got my point :)
think outside the box
While it is easy to live in a familiar environment with familiar faces and same habits, sometimes changing your environment will open new perspectives and help you grow. While i do not imaging myself living in Finland for the rest of my life, i learn a lot and had different experiences here whih i would have never had if i stayed in my home country where life is easy. Did you want to study abroad? go for it? can find an interesting position in you country/city : then move! As i said in your 20s every things is easier.
know what you are worth
It is very important to asses your value and strength. Know what you are good at and what subject or tasks you exell in, this will help you in making life decisions! If you are confused then do this: know what you are NOT good at and what you Truly DONT enjoy and avoid those. Also, as much as we all like to think that whats on the inside is what matters remember that first impressions are everything! Looking happy and healthy is 90% of looking confident and strong! You are shy? no problem!practice talking in front of a mirror, practice your hand shake, have ready a little introcution about yourself for when you meet new people and small talk topics you can always discuss :) and remember nobody is a "renaissance man" there will always be something you know/do better that the others and vice versa so don't be intimidated by others: we all have different gifts :)
choose your friends
Friends have a tremendous influence on us whether you notice it or not. Surrounding yourself with people who share the same goals is important. Of course, having clones as friends get boring so don't take this advice to the point, From my own experience i realized that i now choose my friends more carefully than before just because i know myself better and have different taste thus i like to share my free time with people i love and who love me back not the "toxic friends". Toxic friends are people who secretly wish you ill, who don't want you to succeed in any way and who are not being helpful when you need them the most: steer clear of those people and learn to spot who they are before it is too late!!
define YOUR success
success has many definitions in my opinion. Of course, it seems there is only one definition to people in their 20s: love, career, money! While it is perfectly normal to wish for those , you should stand back and think: what was i wishing for when i was 5 years old? when i was 12? when i was 18? i bet all those wishes are very different and unrelated to love or money:) am sure once you are 30, 35 or 40 you will also have much different wishes . That's why we have to enjoy our small daily success to be happy. i usually have a to-do list on my phone and each task i complete makes me proud! if i manage to go through everything at the end of the day am Happy!! Did you want to go get yourself an ice cream ( or 2) while on a diet? does it make you happy? go for it! The point here is to enjoy smaller achievement so that when the bigger onces come along we truly appreciate them!
get inspired and ask
No need to look too far for inspiration or advice. Do you have a friend or a family member you particularly look up to? Then ask them how they got where they are and what advice could they possibly give you. Never be afraid to ask for guidance, and overall it is always interesting to hear other people life stories as it might give us ideas or they might warn us about few things.
Remember
don't take yourself too seriously..why? because we are bound to make mistakes and if you are too serious about what you do or what you say , then you'll be very disappointed when that happens. But if you know that you WILL make a mistake here and there and you stay calm and don't think about it too much am sure you will come up with a serene and logical solution.
Voila!! hope i didn't sound too patronizing and of course i don't follow my own advice ALL the time but i definitely have those guidelines to help me in my young life. What about you? i would love to hear your tips or experiences !!
p-s i had so much more to say but i didn't want to make it too long a post :)
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